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Business relationships tend to be tricky especially when working with different personalities. These relationships affect your job. Therefore, if you build strong relationships with colleagues, you feel more comfortable when interacting with them. This results in a stress-free environment and improves your efficiency. Together, you create rapport that serves you in achieving company goals.

Studies show that relationships at work contribute to the well-being of an individual. Martin Seligman, a psychologist, mentions that one cannot achieve happiness in a company without social relationships. Hence, we have to look into how one can improve their interpersonal skills while making sure their work develops as well. In this article, we have identified ways to improve working relationships with colleagues. These are essential internal communication strategies to help you accomplish personal and company goals.

Build trust with your colleagues 

Trust is critical for every good relationship. When you trust your colleague, you can be open without worrying about them judging you. You develop a personal connection with them. As a result, you feel safe sharing information and collaborating inside and outside of work.

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Building trust does not happen overnight. It takes time. Some employees take years to earn another colleague’s trust. However, there are ways to build trust in a short period of time. The best way is to be genuine with your promises. Make sure you truly mean what you say and if you fail to fulfill a promise, tell the truth. 

Next, avoid gossiping with other colleagues about fellow employees. Gossiping decreases the trust others have in you.

Find Common Interests with Colleagues 

Mingle with different personalities at your workplace.  By doing this you allow yourself to find commonalities with one another to build a personal connection. Maybe it is a favorite film, a sports team, or another hobby.

New hires should use this to build personal connections in the workplace. Listen to how your interests intersect and share stories with one another to build rapport. Do not hesitate to open up about your desires. Who knows the type of relationships you might develop at work.

Appreciate the Effort of Your Coworkers

Instead of focusing on getting ahead of your coworkers, focus on your work and appreciate their accomplishments. Do not dismiss another colleague’s work to get ahead. This behavior destroys your working relationships and personal connection since you undermine the efforts of others. Instead, work together to make each other better. 

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Always show appreciation to colleagues who put effort into helping you in any way. Everyone at your workplace, including yourself, wants to feel appreciated for a job well done. Therefore, just as you like feeling appreciated, compliment others when they do something good.

In addition, appreciate your colleagues who did something beneficial for the company, or if they have been promoted to a new position. Showing your genuine support serves as a springboard to great work relationships. This camaraderie will be reciprocated in the future to build an even stronger personal connection.

Learn to Control Your Emotions and Use Them to Personally Connect

Work can be stressful and filled with emotion causing you to lose your temper. While voicing anger in the wrong way is bad in and outside the office, expressing your emotions is the only way to build personal connection. Avoid escalating conflict with accusatory language. There is no need to say harsh things to your colleagues, instead, address the issue and move forward. 

When dealt with properly emotions of anger can still bring you together. 

Emotions account for 90% of the decisions we make on a daily basis. Therefore, it is very important to have, embrace and consider your emotions when making decisions and responding to a problem. Identify different practices you can do to calm yourself down before choosing to respond or making a decision.

Slow breathing exercises matching inhales with exhales and visualizing peaceful environments can be used to manage emotions. Other options include walking, running or partaking in another type of physical exercise to capitalize on this emotion and energy.

Exude Positivity, Welcome and Provide Constructive Feedback

When you feel like your colleagues did something wrong, reacting with anger does not solve anything. Instead be proactive about how you choose to respond to a conflict. After utilizing some of the aforementioned techniques to control your emotional response, talk it out in a positive way. This does two things. First, you feel better about the situation and maintain your relationship with your colleague.

Second, they feel respected and will have a better day because of it. At work and in life outside of work, our emotions are influenced by the energy around us. Therefore, it is in our best interest to maintain a positive environment around us. 

Stay positive and focus on what is right and beneficial. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects, discuss on level grounds what constructively needs to happen moving forward.

Constructive feedback is better than hitting them with what they lack. Begin by asking for constructive feedback for yourself, then tell them what they excel at. At this point you may add your suggestions as long as they are constructive and not aggressive attacks. This will improve your relationship and make you a  more effective group member and a co-employee.


Work becomes easy when you have a strong personal connection with your colleagues. Having someone to bond with amid the hustle and bustle of the workplace can help you overcome stress and pressure. These self-care and communication strategies will not allow you to feel relaxed, but you will also have more success at work with your day to day tasks.

Who knows? The link between you and your colleagues might even become much deeper than work. It’s that kind of relationship that translates to years or even decades of inundated business success. 

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