A quarter-life crisis is like a midlife crisis, but it happens in your twenties. Generally speaking, it involves feelings of anxiety or extreme worries about where your life is heading. A lot of millennials go through something like this before they hit 30. It’s very common among this demographic to feel underachieving or have no goal in life. This typically comes about after graduating from college and realizing that you’re out in the real world now.
It’s normal to experience anxiety and uncertainty at this stage in your life, but that doesn’t mean you have to suffer in silence. In fact, there are many things millennials can do to beat the quarter-life crisis.
VP Legacies has an 8-week boot camp where you work directly with coaches and a community of people in the same boat as you to produce a roadmap for clarity in your life. Talk to a coach today to learn more. In addition, we have these suggestions for you;
Set goals for yourself, not based on external pressures
Again, a reason for this crisis stems from the idea that you’re underachieving. This sometimes comes from comparing yourself to other people around your age. This is really toxic because you usually only look at the successful millennials and make yourself feel bad.
In addition, you may feel like you have been setting goals your whole life, but the goals you set weren’t really your goals. Instead, they were based on the external pressures of school, parents, the pressure of getting a job, and your boss. Think about it for a second, what was the last goal you set that was for you?
The solution? Start setting personal goals that you believe in and can start checking off. In our 8-week boot camp VP Legacies teaches you our GROW YORCF framework. The G sets the foundation and represents setting your own personal Goals. Using the concept of the “8 week year” you will set 3 personal goals, 1 relationship goal, 1 career goal and 1 personal finance goal projected out 8 weeks, 1 year, 3 years and 10 years. Don’t worry, VP Legacies guides you and teaches you how to hold yourself accountable for what you want in life.
With our help, you can get to know yourself and set your most meaningful personal goals. We then assist you on your journey to ticking all of these goals off your list during our 8 weeks program. It’s a superb way of getting over your anxiety or fear of failure. When you look back at all of the goals you achieved, it gives you a massive mental boost that helps going forward. You gain self-confidence and master uncertainty without spending years trying to find yourself. Sign up for an interview with one of our founders to learn more today.
Discover who you are and build a personal connection with yourself
One of the main reasons people suffer this early life crisis is that they don’t know themselves. Ask yourself, do you know much about who you are and what you want to be? You’ve probably never stopped and asked yourself what you want to do in life. What do you want to achieve, what are your passions?
Take some time to develop a relationship with yourself. It sounds strange, but it helps you understand what your next steps in life will be. Uncover what makes you happy and what values you’re keen to live by. As a result, you’ll soon be able to build a path that caters to your strengths and passions. You have a sense of direction in your life, which can ease any feelings of anxiety at not knowing what to do with yourself.
In week 4 of our boot camp we guide you through a process of discovering yourself. Part of this is researching and trying 5 things that you have always wanted to try. Then in week 5, we will take you through our “Iceberg of Personal Connection” framework to use what you have discovered to build a strong personal connection with yourself.
Build support networks by personally connecting with others
Talk to people about your situation and how you’re feeling. There’s every chance your friends and family have been through similar things before and when you share your story and details about your story with others you will connect with them. Sometimes, they can provide advice on what you should do to get out of this funk. It’s much easier to deal with a crisis when you have support around you.
Similarly, support networks can help you move forward and make the next steps in life. If you want to quit your job, someone in your family may be able to hook you up with work experience in a role that’s more suited to your strengths. When people care for you, they’re willing to help you on your journey – especially when you make a bold move and decide on a path in life. The chances are they’ve noticed how down you’ve been for the last few months or years. So, they’re more than happy to support any positive changes.
A quarter-life crisis can last for so long that it turns into a mid-life crisis! The fact is, most millennials go through a period of uncertainty, particularly in their early/mid-twenties. It’s easy to get bogged down by your own negative thoughts if you don’t take a stand.
As part of our 8 week boot camp, you will receive exclusive access to peers that are on the same journey as you. Together you will be able to share experiences and get live group coaching from our founders, Hector “the Greek” and Jonny “the King of Burpees.” Learn more about the community with an interview with Hector or Jonny.
Make a decision and take action
Most quarter-life crises come when you’re stuck doing something you hate. You’re in a dead-end job, and you despise it. But, you’re too afraid to change as you don’t know what else to do. Sure, you have passions and dreams, but you have no idea how to get there. This fear keeps you trapped in your job for many years, compounding the feelings of disappointment you have towards your life.
This needs to stop right now! This is why we created our 8 week program to focus on building a strong personal connection with yourself. By doing that it becomes easy to make a big decision and take action. Decide what direction you want to take your life in. Reevaluate the 8 week goals you set and see what pivots you need to take in the short term so you can achieve your 1 year, 3 year and 10 year goals in the long term. Write down what you want to do and how you will do it. All of a sudden, your dreams seem far more achievable.
Give your mind a break and reset
All your anxiety and worries can take a massive toll on your mental wellbeing. When you do nothing about this, the problem gets worse. This is why so many people in a quarter-life crisis feel depressed and trapped. It’s because all of your negative emotions are weighing you down, and you let them grow.
Instead, give your mind a break. Take some time off work, turn your phone off, don’t look at social media, and just live in the moment. Think about taking up meditation every morning to provide your mind with some peace every day. Doing this can clear your head from all the outside noise that’s making you feel stressed. It also gives you time to think things through more clearly. In turn, this can help you realize a lot of your worries are irrational, and you’re making them seem worse than they appear. Also, giving your mind a break can de-fog your brain and help you understand what direction to take your life in.
The 8th week of our boot camp is designed for you to take a step back and be an observer of your life. Then since you will have lifetime access to our program you can jump back in again with week 1 to set your new 8 week goals and see if anything has changed with what you want to achieve in 24 weeks, 1 year, 3 years and 10 years. No matter what, we are here to empower you on your journey whenever you need us. Set up an interview with us to learn more about how you can make actionable change in your life.